Online Therapy using Attachment Theory in Jacksonville and throughout Florida
If closeness feels confusing, if you want connection but brace for disappointment, or if you tend to handle everything on your own, attachment theory can offer real insight. Our earliest relationships taught us whether others would show up when we needed them, and those lessons live on in how we love, argue, and ask for help as adults.
I offer attachment-focused therapy online to adults in Jacksonville and across Florida. We'll look at your relationship history gently, notice how old patterns play out today, and use approaches like EMDR and IFS to process the experiences underneath them.
- Free consultation
- Online in Colorado & Florida
- $200 per session
Licensed in Florida
Becky Romero, LMHC, LPC
When distance and separation are part of everyday life
In a city with a large Navy presence and plenty of jobs that involve travel, separation is a familiar rhythm for many Jacksonville families. Deployments, training cycles, long-haul logistics routes, and frequent relocations can stir up attachment fears even in steady relationships. Partners left at home may find themselves anxious and hypervigilant, while the person returning may struggle to reconnect after weeks of operating in a different mode.
Attachment-focused therapy can help you understand those reactions instead of judging them. We can explore what goodbyes and reunions bring up for you, where that response first took root, and how to stay connected to yourself when someone you love is far away. Because sessions are online, you can keep working with me through busy seasons at home, and even after a move, as long as you remain in Florida or relocate to Colorado.
Therapy for Jacksonville residents, from home
Jacksonville covers more ground than almost any city in the country, and it feels like it. Getting from the Westside to the Beaches, or from Mandarin to Oceanway, can eat up most of an afternoon, especially when the bridges back up. A therapist who looks local on a map may still be forty minutes away. Online therapy removes that distance.
The First Coast is home to Navy families tied to NAS Jacksonville and Mayport, people working in logistics, banking, and healthcare, UNF students, and retirees who chose the river and the ocean. Moves, deployments, and long hours are part of the rhythm here for a lot of people.
I meet with Jacksonville adults over secure video, so you can keep a steady weekly session even when your schedule, or your household, keeps shifting.
- Licensed in Florida (LMHC #MH14720)
- EMDRIA Certified EMDR therapist
- Secure, HIPAA-compliant video sessions
- Free 15-minute consultation
Do you struggle with attachment wounds?
If your early relationships left you feeling unheard, unseen, or unsafe, it might be shaping how you connect with others today. Attachment wounds can affect your life in subtle but painful ways. Do any of these sound familiar?
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Fear of rejection or abandonment
You worry about being left behind or not being enough for the people you care about. Maybe you overthink conversations, replay interactions in your head, or feel a deep need for reassurance.
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Difficulty trusting others
Letting people in feels risky. You might hesitate to open up, question others' intentions, or feel you have to protect yourself at all costs, which makes it hard to feel truly connected, even with people who care about you.
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Inconsistent emotions
One moment you feel overwhelmed with anxiety, frustration, or sadness, and the next you shut down entirely. These highs and lows are exhausting and make relationships even harder to navigate.
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Unhealthy relationship patterns
You notice a pattern of being drawn to emotionally unavailable people or staying in relationships that don't feel safe or fulfilling. No matter what you do, you end up in the same painful cycles.
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Low self-worth
Deep down, you feel you're not good enough or not worthy of love. That belief can lead you to settle for less, avoid intimacy, or keep searching for proof that you matter.
You're not alone, and you don't have to stay stuck. Healing starts with understanding.
What is attachment theory?
Attachment theory was developed by psychologist John Bowlby and expanded by Mary Ainsworth. It explains how early experiences with caregivers influence the ways we form emotional bonds and regulate our emotions. These patterns, or attachment styles, often follow us into adulthood and affect how we engage with partners, friends, and even our children.
Understanding your attachment style
Attachment styles influence how you approach emotional closeness. Understanding yours helps reveal why some relationships feel easier and others feel painful, and opens the door to change.
Secure attachment
You feel confident in relationships, trust others, communicate openly, and hold a positive view of yourself and your relationships.
Anxious attachment
You fear abandonment and crave closeness, which can lead to overthinking or seeking constant reassurance.
Avoidant attachment
You prioritize independence, suppress emotions, and struggle with vulnerability in relationships.
Disorganized attachment
Often the result of unresolved trauma, disorganized attachment combines a fear of intimacy with a deep longing for connection, which can lead to conflicting behaviors in relationships.
The connection between attachment and trauma
Trauma, particularly relational trauma, can disrupt attachment development. Neglect or abuse can lead to disorganized attachment, where a person craves connection but also fears it. Healing trauma in therapy helps rebuild the sense of safety and trust that secure attachment depends on.
How I can help
I integrate attachment theory into my trauma-informed approach. Whether you're struggling with anxious attachment or trying to understand patterns in your relationships, we'll create a path forward together. Using Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Attachment-Focused EMDR, I help you address the underlying wounds and build secure attachment within yourself and with others.
Healing starts with understanding. Together, we can uncover patterns, reprocess old wounds, and help you build the connections you deserve.
Therapy with an attachment-focused lens can help you…
From 'what's wrong with me?'
To the more compassionate 'what happened to me?', which opens the door to healing.
More emotional security
Feel more confident and secure in relationships, knowing you are worthy of love.
Healthier boundaries
Set boundaries that protect your well-being while fostering mutual respect.
Clearer communication
Express your needs and feelings without fear of judgment or rejection.
Deeper connection
Build authentic relationships based on trust, vulnerability, and care.
Greater self-worth
Shift negative self-beliefs and embrace your inherent value.
W.F. · Kissimmee, FL
More client stories“Almost a year ago, I came to LotusMindFlow to work through some situations that I was experiencing. If I have to be honest, I didn't believe Becky was going to be helpful. I have to admit I was very wrong. I was a broken woman when I began my journey with LotusMindFlow, during that journey, I would ask myself, why are you wasting your time coming here week after week? I thank God I did not give up. I am a believer and after many of my sessions I would attend church the following Sunday and I would receive confirmation on the discussions that I had during the past sessions. Today, I write this testimonial as a free and happy woman. Thank you Becky for being there when I needed a counselor most.”
Attachment-Based Therapy in Jacksonville: common questions
Have a question that isn't answered here? I'm happy to talk it through in a free consultation.
If you are an adult physically located in Florida, yes. Sessions are private pay, and I can provide a superbill if you'd like to check your plan's out-of-network benefits. If a PCS move takes you to Colorado, we can continue, since I'm licensed there too. A move to any other state would mean helping you transition to a new therapist.
There's no physical office. I work entirely by telehealth, which means a client in Ponte Vedra and a client in Orange Park have the same easy access. The one requirement is location: you need to be in Florida, or in Colorado, at the time of each session. A beach chair across the state line in Georgia, unfortunately, doesn't count.
A private room or parked car, a phone, tablet, or computer with a camera, and a reliable internet connection. Headphones help keep things confidential. Some people like to have water, a blanket, or something soothing nearby, since trauma work can bring up a lot in the body. I'll walk you through the video platform before our first session so the technology never feels like a barrier.
Yes. Attachment styles can feel deeply ingrained, but they are not fixed. Through therapy, self-awareness, and healing past wounds, it's possible to move toward "earned" secure attachment.
Attachment wounds are emotional injuries that occur when your needs for safety, connection, and validation weren't met in childhood. They can result from neglect, inconsistency, or traumatic experiences with caregivers.
Absolutely. Attachment wounds can lead to feelings of unworthiness, difficulty trusting yourself, or over-relying on others for validation, which shapes how you see yourself and make choices in every area of life.
Therapy offers a safe relationship in which to explore how early experiences shaped your relationships and self-perception. With tools like EMDR and IFS, we address the root of those wounds and develop healthier ways of connecting with yourself and others.
I use trauma-informed approaches like Attachment-Focused EMDR to reprocess painful memories, and IFS to understand and heal the parts of you that carry attachment wounds. Together, they build internal security and healthier relationship patterns.
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Ready to start therapy from Jacksonville?
Book a free consultation. We'll talk about what's bringing you in and whether we're the right fit. Sessions are online, so you can join from anywhere in Florida.