Online Therapy using Attachment Theory in Orlando and throughout Florida
Maybe you're the one who always reaches first, texting twice when the reply doesn't come. Maybe you go quiet and pull away the moment someone gets close. Either way, you have probably noticed that the same relationship patterns follow you from one chapter of life to the next. Attachment-focused therapy helps us understand where those patterns began and why they made sense at the time.
I work with Orlando adults online, combining attachment theory with EMDR, IFS, and somatic tools so we can address both the story and the felt sense in your body. The goal isn't to label you with a style. It's to help you feel safer in yourself and in your connections.
- Free consultation
- Online in Colorado & Florida
- $200 per session
Licensed in Florida
Becky Romero, LMHC, LPC
Building secure connection in a city where so many people are from somewhere else
Orlando is full of transplants. People come for jobs in hospitality, healthcare, simulation, and tech, or for school at UCF and Valencia, and many arrive without the family and long-term friendships that once held them. When your support network is new or thin, attachment wounds can feel louder. Loneliness, fear of being too much, or a habit of overgiving to keep people close often show up most when everything around you is unfamiliar.
Therapy can become one steady, predictable relationship while you build the rest. Over time, we look at how you learned to seek comfort, what happens in your body when someone feels distant, and what you need to feel secure. Doing this from home, without a drive down I-4, keeps the focus on you rather than on getting there. The safety of your own space can make it easier to soften.
Therapy for Orlando residents, from home
If you live in Orlando, you probably plan your week around I-4. A mid-afternoon appointment across town can quietly turn into a two-hour round trip, and that is often the moment people give up on getting help. Online therapy takes the drive out of the equation. You open your laptop at home in College Park, in a parked car outside the office in Lake Nona, or in a quiet room after a closing shift, and we begin.
Orlando runs on hospitality, healthcare, tech, and education, and plenty of those jobs come with rotating schedules, weekend shifts, and very little margin. I see Florida clients by secure video, so where you sit matters less than whether you have privacy and a steady connection.
Finding a therapist who is actually trained in trauma work, rather than one who lists it among twenty specialties, can take real searching in a metro this size. If you have been looking, I am glad you found your way here.
- Licensed in Florida (LMHC #MH14720)
- EMDRIA Certified EMDR therapist
- Secure, HIPAA-compliant video sessions
- Free 15-minute consultation
Do you struggle with attachment wounds?
If your early relationships left you feeling unheard, unseen, or unsafe, it might be shaping how you connect with others today. Attachment wounds can affect your life in subtle but painful ways. Do any of these sound familiar?
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Fear of rejection or abandonment
You worry about being left behind or not being enough for the people you care about. Maybe you overthink conversations, replay interactions in your head, or feel a deep need for reassurance.
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Difficulty trusting others
Letting people in feels risky. You might hesitate to open up, question others' intentions, or feel you have to protect yourself at all costs, which makes it hard to feel truly connected, even with people who care about you.
- 03
Inconsistent emotions
One moment you feel overwhelmed with anxiety, frustration, or sadness, and the next you shut down entirely. These highs and lows are exhausting and make relationships even harder to navigate.
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Unhealthy relationship patterns
You notice a pattern of being drawn to emotionally unavailable people or staying in relationships that don't feel safe or fulfilling. No matter what you do, you end up in the same painful cycles.
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Low self-worth
Deep down, you feel you're not good enough or not worthy of love. That belief can lead you to settle for less, avoid intimacy, or keep searching for proof that you matter.
You're not alone, and you don't have to stay stuck. Healing starts with understanding.
What is attachment theory?
Attachment theory was developed by psychologist John Bowlby and expanded by Mary Ainsworth. It explains how early experiences with caregivers influence the ways we form emotional bonds and regulate our emotions. These patterns, or attachment styles, often follow us into adulthood and affect how we engage with partners, friends, and even our children.
Understanding your attachment style
Attachment styles influence how you approach emotional closeness. Understanding yours helps reveal why some relationships feel easier and others feel painful, and opens the door to change.
Secure attachment
You feel confident in relationships, trust others, communicate openly, and hold a positive view of yourself and your relationships.
Anxious attachment
You fear abandonment and crave closeness, which can lead to overthinking or seeking constant reassurance.
Avoidant attachment
You prioritize independence, suppress emotions, and struggle with vulnerability in relationships.
Disorganized attachment
Often the result of unresolved trauma, disorganized attachment combines a fear of intimacy with a deep longing for connection, which can lead to conflicting behaviors in relationships.
The connection between attachment and trauma
Trauma, particularly relational trauma, can disrupt attachment development. Neglect or abuse can lead to disorganized attachment, where a person craves connection but also fears it. Healing trauma in therapy helps rebuild the sense of safety and trust that secure attachment depends on.
How I can help
I integrate attachment theory into my trauma-informed approach. Whether you're struggling with anxious attachment or trying to understand patterns in your relationships, we'll create a path forward together. Using Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Attachment-Focused EMDR, I help you address the underlying wounds and build secure attachment within yourself and with others.
Healing starts with understanding. Together, we can uncover patterns, reprocess old wounds, and help you build the connections you deserve.
Therapy with an attachment-focused lens can help you…
From 'what's wrong with me?'
To the more compassionate 'what happened to me?', which opens the door to healing.
More emotional security
Feel more confident and secure in relationships, knowing you are worthy of love.
Healthier boundaries
Set boundaries that protect your well-being while fostering mutual respect.
Clearer communication
Express your needs and feelings without fear of judgment or rejection.
Deeper connection
Build authentic relationships based on trust, vulnerability, and care.
Greater self-worth
Shift negative self-beliefs and embrace your inherent value.
W.F. · Kissimmee, FL
More client stories“Almost a year ago, I came to LotusMindFlow to work through some situations that I was experiencing. If I have to be honest, I didn't believe Becky was going to be helpful. I have to admit I was very wrong. I was a broken woman when I began my journey with LotusMindFlow, during that journey, I would ask myself, why are you wasting your time coming here week after week? I thank God I did not give up. I am a believer and after many of my sessions I would attend church the following Sunday and I would receive confirmation on the discussions that I had during the past sessions. Today, I write this testimonial as a free and happy woman. Thank you Becky for being there when I needed a counselor most.”
Attachment-Based Therapy in Orlando: common questions
Have a question that isn't answered here? I'm happy to talk it through in a free consultation.
I don't. My practice is fully online, and every session happens over secure video. That means you can meet with me from anywhere in Orlando or the rest of Florida, as long as you are physically in the state when we meet. Many people find that being in their own space actually makes it easier to settle in and do deeper work.
Yes, if you can find a private spot. A parked car, an empty conference room, or a reserved study room can all work. I ask that you never drive during a session, and that you choose a place where you can speak freely and feel your feelings without worrying about who might overhear. Headphones help a lot.
Central Florida summers bring afternoon thunderstorms almost daily, and hurricane season can disrupt things for longer. If your power or internet goes down, we can try reconnecting over your phone, or simply find another time once you are safe and settled. Because I'm not tied to an Orlando office, a storm on your side doesn't mean losing your therapist.
Yes. Attachment styles can feel deeply ingrained, but they are not fixed. Through therapy, self-awareness, and healing past wounds, it's possible to move toward "earned" secure attachment.
Attachment wounds are emotional injuries that occur when your needs for safety, connection, and validation weren't met in childhood. They can result from neglect, inconsistency, or traumatic experiences with caregivers.
Absolutely. Attachment wounds can lead to feelings of unworthiness, difficulty trusting yourself, or over-relying on others for validation, which shapes how you see yourself and make choices in every area of life.
Therapy offers a safe relationship in which to explore how early experiences shaped your relationships and self-perception. With tools like EMDR and IFS, we address the root of those wounds and develop healthier ways of connecting with yourself and others.
I use trauma-informed approaches like Attachment-Focused EMDR to reprocess painful memories, and IFS to understand and heal the parts of you that carry attachment wounds. Together, they build internal security and healthier relationship patterns.
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Ready to start therapy from Orlando?
Book a free consultation. We'll talk about what's bringing you in and whether we're the right fit. Sessions are online, so you can join from anywhere in Florida.